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This week on Ask The GameGirls we get a little break from the normal "Female Gamer" questions. The question of the week is from Valentine:

I'm a 16 year old female gamer and I just cant stop playing and talking about video games, most people laugh at me and say I'm some kind of freak because all I do is play video games all day. Especially my big brothers, they keep on laughing at me cause I don't really have that many friends and don't hang out much. How do I get everyone off my back?

Here are our thoughts.

You don't. That said, I know where you're coming from. Once upon a time in 7th grade I was the chubby, weird, socially awkward girl in the corner of the room, not talking to anyone and drawing pokemon on my binder. I too, was picked on for my love of games. But you know what? At the end of the day you just got to be able to say to yourself "look at me, I am dancing to the beat of my own drum, I'm not another mindless girl who can only talk about guys and clothes and parties. to hell with everyone else." If you love games, I'd be willing to bet in a few years you would stand a good chance at writing for a gaming blog site similar to gamegirl, and then you will be respected for your love of games rather than criticized.
Now, on the flip side, ONLY gaming and nothing else is unhealthy. You need to develop some other hobbies as well in order to be a more well rounded individual. And in doing so, you will develop common ground with your peers, and possibly even make some friends if you are able and willing to talk about something other than games. Games are indeed fun, I love them, talk about them, write about them, and play them... but it is important to remember everything should be taken in moderation. Also, I recommend joining us over at www.pwned.com, you will find a lot of girls there very similar to you, and its a great place to make some online friends with like minded people. Good luck!

To be honest, I don't think you'll ever get everyone off your back. Not because your a gamer, just because there will always be someone who will get on you for something. It is a never ending process. I have 5 brothers, and there was always something while growing up that they would get on me about. I was kinda a tomboy growing up. I played sports, video games, etc. But I also did other things that were more "girly" as some people put it. I'm very outgoing, outspoken, and full of energy. I'm unique. I'm proud to be it, because I like being different from others. But that's what makes me "Me". Look at all the GameGirls, we talk about video games all the time, and play them all the time. It isn't just a past time we write about. We all were playing and talking about them prior to working at GameGirl. You are not a freak, there are many people/girls who play video games. The most important thing is for you to be happy. If you're happy playing video games, than keep doing it. If you want more friends. Go make them. BUT do it for you, not because you want people to leave you alone about what you do with your time. It's your life, and you need to make yourself happy.

It is never easy to change anyone's mind or opinion. The first thing I recommend is to learn to ignore it, of course, this is sometimes easier said than done. We have all been there at one time or another. I have had many arguments with people about girls as gamers or my own ambitions in gaming. Another suggestion, you could challenge your brothers, kick their asses at the game so they will see what it takes and how good you are. Not only that but you can show them how many friends you have online.
I know it sounds a bit cliche but tough skin will go a long way. Just try to not let it bother you and it will eventually go away. If all else fails...knock 'em on their ass.

Every thing you do and everywhere you go in life people will make fun of you for something. You just gotta do what you love for yourself and don't listen to the people who give you crap. If they want to make fun of your for your passion for games then let them, they are the ones missing out. Play hard, and have fun...don't let anyone bring you down for doing what you love. Hold your head up, pick up a controller and play.


You can't let anyone get to you like that! You've just got to just ignore them... If they see that you get irritable or upset when they laugh at you about playing games all the time, that will show them what they're doing is working to tick you off. I'm sure they love pushing your buttons, probably as much as my brother did when I was younger.
It is nice to have a balance between RL stuff, like hanging with friends, and playing video games... But it's even better when you put the two together! Try to find some pals that share the same common interest. Get together and have gaming sessions! That will show you're brothers that you're not the only one who likes to play games, and that you have pals who want to just play games all day too!
Just remember to ignore your brothers. If they realize you don't care what they think, or how much they make fun of you, they wont even bother trying anymore. They want a reaction out of you!
Good luck!

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